THE UNTANGLER PROGRAMME

Question 1

What specific qualities or attributes do I want to embody in my future self, and why are they important to me?

Question 2

What fears or limiting beliefs do I need to address to fully embrace my future vision?
How can I identify and challenge these beliefs to empower my growth and exploration?

Question 3

What role does self-compassion play in my journey toward my future self?
How can I practice self-compassion during setbacks or challenges I may encounter along the way?

Question 1:

What brings me pleasure, both sexually and non-sexually?
How can I incorporate more of this into my life?

Question 2:

How can mindfulness and presence in the moment enhance my experience of pleasure?
In what ways can I practice being more present during pleasurable experiences, both sexual and non-sexual?

Question 3

How can I celebrate and acknowledge moments of pleasure in my daily life?
What rituals or practices can I establish to regularly reflect on and appreciate the pleasurable experiences I have?

Question 1:

What does intimacy mean to me, how do I express it, and how do I experience it romantically and platonically?
How do different types of intimacy (emotional, physical, intellectual) manifest in my relationships?

Question 2:

How do I feel and what fears do I have about vulnerability and trust when it comes to sexual intimacy?
How do I differentiate between healthy vulnerability and feeling exposed or unsafe in intimate situations?

Question 3:

How do my attachment styles influence my experiences of intimacy and connection?
Can I identify my attachment style, and how does it affect my relationships with others?

Question 1:

How do I feel about my body in the context of my self-worth?
What messages growing up did I receive that shaped that?

Question 2:

How does my relationship with my body affect my sexual experiences and confidence
How can I cultivate a more positive body image to improve my sexual confidence and intimacy?

Question 3:

How do I practice self-compassion in relation to my body?
How can I reframe critical thoughts into more compassionate narratives?

Question 1:

What are my current desires and fantasies?
Am I comfortable expressing them?
Do they reflect my core values and beliefs?

Question 2:

What boundaries do I feel are important for my life experiences?
Am I able to uphold them and do they protect my internal and external wellbeing?

Question 3:

What role does trust and vulnerability play in expressing my desires and maintaining my boundaries?

Question 1:

What influence has the below had on my understanding of identity?
- Family
- Race
- Religion
- Socioeconomic Status

Question 2:

Do I feel empowered or limited by my sexual identity?
Does that impact my self-esteem and interactions with others?

Question 3:

What aspects of my identity am I most proud of?
Do they influence my sense of purpose and direction in life?

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Introduction to deprogramming